Cheating is the worst form of destruction to your relationship or marriage; in a marriage it is considered a betrayal of the vows taken during marriage. The discovery of the act of cheating by the other half can either break the marriage or make it stronger depending on the strength of love for one another.
Cheating generally means that one is not fully satisfied with his or her current partner. Perhaps the perhaps may also feel that something is missing in the relationship. After all, if one is completely in love and happy within his or her relationship, why would he or she have an affair?
Trust here is a big factor, not of your partner, but yourself. Probably for some time you have sensed something is different or questioned the change of behavior in your partner. Nobody deserves to be cheated on, no matter what state your relationship is in. If you believe your partner is having an affair, now is the time to check it out and do a little investigation just to be sure.
Start by looking for the obvious things such as a change in the way your partner dresses, a sudden desire to look good, a change in work patterns, an unusual interest in the gym, secrecy over phone calls or emails, a loss of intimacy in your marriage, lack of sexual interest or distance between you that never used to exist. In worst case scenarios, one might even have to spy on his or her partner to make way for more concrete evidence.
A cheating partner can cause much emotional trauma, not to mention the harm it could cause a family.
Here are some important clues that might help you to find out if your partner is having an affair.
1.Changes in appearance and attitude.
He or she has a sudden preoccupation with appearance. Your partner is now more interested in how he or she dresses; go often to a hair salon and even to gym, even if this wasn’t your partner’s main priority before.
If in the past you used to share everything with your partner and then suddenly he or she seems distanced and clams up when you try to discuss intimate things, it could mean that your partner has already distanced emotionally and mentally from you. He or she is suddenly frigid and loses any interest in doing anything with you.
3.She’s being secretive.
He or she is no longer sharing her daily events with you. He or she might avoid you because of guilt. Don’t get paranoid and suspicious first, ask your partner if everything is ok and explain that he or she has been acting differently lately.
4.Disinterest in family.
If your partner is no longer excited to meet you at the door from work, don’t get jittery just yet, but this could also spell a sign of bigger trouble. When your partner feels the sudden need to go out, try to find a reason to accompany him or her. If he or she comes up
with a reason to go alone, push the issue; not too much but just enough to see if your partner becomes more uncomfortable.
5.Less arguing and fighting.
Your partner used to get angry if you didn’t want to come out with him or her and friends, but now everything you do is alright. Once upon a time, your every move had to be premeditated, but now all the small things you used to mess up aren’t enraging her. This could be a good thing, but you wonder why she no longer cares.
6.More phone and internet.
He or she speaks a lot at the telephone using a low voice, or he or she whispers to the phone and hangs up quickly. Maybe your partner has set up a new e-mail account and doesn’t tell you about it. Watch out for any new cell phones that you don’t know about. Ask
your partner outright if he or she is being true with you and if your partner becomes accusatory, it could be another sign that he or she is hiding something from you.
7.She’s always late.
In the past your partner never comes home late but now this happens more and more. Your partner’s explanation is that he or she had to stay more at the office because of work. Or he or she goes to the store and comes home four hours later. This could be another sign that something more sinister is brewing.
Cheating spouses often look and act guilty, giving a general feeling that something isn’t right. They try and avoid meaningful conversations, keep everything at a general and non intimate level. While the said points may or may not be tell tale signs that your partner is cheating, it doesn’t hurt to explore a little more in depth just to make sure. While difficult, keep composed and work in as rational a manner as possible. After all, you do not want to falsely accuse someone who genuinely is in love with you!